"Oldie but goodie singles wards"

Oldie but goodie singles wards...this is the affectionate term I've heard a couple of my good friends use to describe the wards singles over the age of 31 are put in. These are basically ultra intense singles wards. For the Utah County area that a few of my over 31 years of age single friends reside in, only a certain, equal number of men and women are allowed in. Men usually have no trouble getting in, but women are often put on a waiting list to be admitted into this ward. You must have a current temple recommend, attend regularly, date regularly, and even sign a contract agreeing to several terms in order to be a member of this ward. That's not to say that going to the temple regularly or dating regularly is a bad thing. Still, this ward means business as far as getting people married.

Question...how do LDS kids even get to this age unmarried? Girls, I do believe, have a little less control over this. All of my girl friends who are at this stage are some of the most delightful people I know! Even the guys I know who are at this stage are NOT bad or weird guys. Girls want to be with them, so why don't they want to be with any of these girls? Maybe girls have been horrible to them in the past and they are afraid? I imagine the reason is different for everyone. I like to think that there is a reason for this, a good reason. The reason cannot possibly be that they are undesirable. I have seen plenty of undesirable people get married (for real, just watch an episode of Bridezillas), and that is not the case for any 31+ person that I know. Perhaps they have a greater purpose in this life, something they need to do. I like to think that the best relationships will be reserved for those who have waited faithfully and patiently for those blessings.